| know why most people can't tell you what they want? | | | | its setting, the room's temperature will change. The |
| It's simple, really. They spend so much time thinking | | | | fact that you don't know you did it is irrelevant. If you |
| about how bad their life is, and thinking about what | | | | change the setting, the temperature changes. |
| they don't want, that their mind becomes fixated on | | | | So taking control of our life's "thermostat" seems like a |
| the negatives. They become experts at thinking about | | | | useful thing to learn. |
| bad stuff. | | | | Now, learning all this is pretty much like learning any |
| Without ever realizing it, they've become specialists in | | | | other new skill. You'll go through a stage when it's all |
| all the crappy and unpleasant things that can go wrong | | | | exciting. Then it'll turn into a grind. Next will be the "I'll |
| for them. | | | | never be able to do this" phase. Then the "well, maybe |
| They don't even realize they've never practiced | | | | I can do it, but it sure is taking longer than I expected" |
| thinking about the good stuff, except in a wistful, distant | | | | phase. And eventually you'll come to the "Okay, it's |
| "I wish I could have that," kind of way. | | | | starting to make sense and it's working part of the |
| "I wish I could have" translates to "I can't have," and | | | | time now" phase. And although it takes a while, you |
| their inner mind obediently attracts to them what they | | | | eventually get to the expert stage -- if you hang in |
| fill their thoughts with. Lack. Wishfulness. Sadness. | | | | there and keep going. So learning this is just like |
| Loneliness. | | | | mastering any other skill. |
| They're getting exactly what they're creating, but they | | | | The ability to tune your thoughts to a new set of |
| never realize it. Ask any unhappy, unfulfilled person | | | | conditions is the same skill that the leaders and |
| what's causing all their misery, and you'll get every | | | | innovators of the world use to make their mark. And |
| answer but the correct one. | | | | they had to learn it, just like you're doing now. |
| You'll hear tales of bad luck, unfairness at work and at | | | | If you're learning tennis or skating, you go through a |
| home, a boss with a grudge, a spouse that "doesn't | | | | definite process of attempting new levels, one step at |
| understand me," and every other reason under the | | | | a time, practicing, and checking your progress. |
| sun. What you won't ever hear is: "I did all this to | | | | Eventually, you become so good at your new hobby |
| myself." | | | | that people say, "Wow, she's just a natural," forgetting |
| Our thoughts attract to us the events and conditions | | | | (or ignoring) all the work you put into the process. |
| that match what we're thinking about. This happens | | | | Well, that's the way it'll be, too, when you learn to run |
| whether or not we know it's going on. If you walk into | | | | your own life. |
| a room, accidentally bump the thermostat, and change | | | | Shall we get started? |